Fools Rush In : A Cautionary Tale

It's ok to be single!

Sometimes you might feel like everybody around you is in a relationship. This can be tough, especially if you feel pressure to be in a relationship. 

Everyone is different. We all want different things out of life. There are lots of reasons why you might not want  a relationship right now, and might be happiest single.

There are also a lot of great things about being single:

Your decisions only affect you and don't involve a partner's wants or needs.

You can concentrate on doing things you enjoy.

You can spend time with your friends and venture to new places to make new memories.

You can meet new people and not have to worry about a partner's jealousy.

If you do choose to be single, it'll give you more free time to do what you want, like:

Hang out with friends and rekindle old connections

Focus on school and/or work

Enjoy extracurricular activities, like learning to play a sport or acquiring new skills

Reflecting on why you are choosing to be single can also be empowering. Maybe at this very moment being in a relationship isn't something on your priority list. You may have a sense of independence and you feel like being in a relationship will hold you down.

If you don't feel like you're ready for a relationship, then don't rush into it. If your feelings change in the future, that's okay too. In the meantime enjoy yourself and everything around you being single.

So, to everyone who is bothered by the fact that I don’t have a ring on my finger yet, hopefully this helps you understand that I am most certainly not bothered at all, and you shouldn’t be either. To everyone who believes that marriage is the sum of everything in a relationship, that it is a point to reach and a destination at which to arrive…please, slow down. Recognize that relationships must be nurtured, and they must grow at a healthy pace. You have to see what you have before you, and remember that no era in life can ever be returned to again. I guess it all comes down to being in the moment, and appreciating that moment for everything it is, instead of frowning upon it for everything it’s not.

WHY DO SOME PEOPLE RUSH INTO MARRIAGE?

"Marriage is a huge step of faith and commitment between two people, one that shouldn't be entered into lightly."

Marriage is a huge step of trust and commitment between two people. It takes a tremendous amount of hard work and self-sacrifice. It is heaven if you’re ready for it–and hell if you’re not. It should never be entered into lightly. There are, however, many women and some men who feel like they can’t be a complete person unless they are married. Many of them are looking for another person to solve their many problems and help them feel whole. For your information, only God can meet our deepest needs. It is so important two people come together out of their strengths, and not their weaknesses. Never ask your marriage partner, or anyone else for that matter, to meet the needs only God can meet.


Women are also driven to marriage out of an inborn desire to have children. Studies show some women are waiting longer to have children, yet the desire to be a mother can be very strong, even at a young age. And many rightly understand how raising children is more effective within a committed marriage relationship. This pressure to have children sometimes pushes a woman into making a rushed decision about who she will marry. Some tend to forget that who you marry is the second most important decision you will ever make.


SOME OF THE REALLY BAD REASONS WHY SOME PEOPLE RUSH INTO MARRIAGE

GET MARRIED OR GET DEPORTED?

You done fell in love with a foreigner, and your visa is expiring soon. Unless you tie the knot, you're going to get deported. Guess what? If it's meant to be, your relationship will survive the time and space.

HE THREATENS TO LEAVE

If he's pressuring you to get married quickly, it might be because he wants to lock you down before you get to know him very well. If he threatens to break up with you if you don't marry him soon, then consider yourself spared.

IT'S CHEAPER

You don't want to live together before you're married, but sharing expenses is a heck of a lot cheaper. My advice is to get a roommate until you're really sure you want a permanent roommate.

BABY MAKES THREE

It's one thing to move up a wedding date in a long-term relationship should you find yourself unexpectedly expecting. But don't rush into it because of the baby. Divorce is going to be harder on that kid down the road than never experiencing his parents in a romantic relationship together.

And for my last word:

Do you yearn to be married because you believe it will make you feel complete? Understand that marriage doesn't complete you. If you think you need to be half of a couple to be all of who you are, you're engaging in "wrong thinking." You don't need to be half of a couple to be complete.

CONTEMPLATE ... !

**ellyierre**